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	<title>Comments on: Would a Break in Parenting Help a Prospective Birth Parent?</title>
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		<title>By: jzumbie</title>
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		<dc:creator>jzumbie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 May 2008 18:41:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi...&lt;br /&gt;
   I too am a foster mom (who has taken in a dozen kids) and am trained to take in teen moms... Here&#039;s my thoughts.&lt;br /&gt;
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A break is a great thing but the reason they take babies away from birth parents is to have them not get too attached.  You certainly can offer it to your foster daughter, but the temporary placement of that little one becomes incredibly important in case she decides to give her up.  Your 25 year old can relinquish temporarily to the county and the county will find appropriate care (it&#039;s called a voluntary placement)... then that way the baby goes someplace that is willing to keep her long term in case she decides to give her up.  Also, You can find someone like me or any of a bunch of other foster parents that would love to adopt ultimately but also completely supports reunification with the birth parent (9 of my kids went home to birth family members)... I&#039;ve adopted 2, and one passed away from a genetic illness.&lt;br /&gt;
Last...at least for me, each of my kids will always be MY kids (even when they get placed elsewhere)... so I would almost consider this my grandchild.  You may want to think if you want to adopt your grandchild (from that perspective)... It may be the perfect answer since the mom already has a tie with you.  And yes, you can give her some time to herself, but make sure you have the rest of it worked out in your head.&lt;br /&gt;
God Bless you, and trust the Spirit within you to give you the right answer.  You&#039;ve trusted that spirit many times throughout your life... trust it and be prepared!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi&#8230;<br />
   I too am a foster mom (who has taken in a dozen kids) and am trained to take in teen moms&#8230; Here&#8217;s my thoughts.</p>
<p>A break is a great thing but the reason they take babies away from birth parents is to have them not get too attached.  You certainly can offer it to your foster daughter, but the temporary placement of that little one becomes incredibly important in case she decides to give her up.  Your 25 year old can relinquish temporarily to the county and the county will find appropriate care (it&#8217;s called a voluntary placement)&#8230; then that way the baby goes someplace that is willing to keep her long term in case she decides to give her up.  Also, You can find someone like me or any of a bunch of other foster parents that would love to adopt ultimately but also completely supports reunification with the birth parent (9 of my kids went home to birth family members)&#8230; I&#8217;ve adopted 2, and one passed away from a genetic illness.<br />
Last&#8230;at least for me, each of my kids will always be MY kids (even when they get placed elsewhere)&#8230; so I would almost consider this my grandchild.  You may want to think if you want to adopt your grandchild (from that perspective)&#8230; It may be the perfect answer since the mom already has a tie with you.  And yes, you can give her some time to herself, but make sure you have the rest of it worked out in your head.<br />
God Bless you, and trust the Spirit within you to give you the right answer.  You&#8217;ve trusted that spirit many times throughout your life&#8230; trust it and be prepared!</p>
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		<title>By: Jenna Hatfield</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jenna Hatfield</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 May 2008 14:08:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This? Is amazing. &lt;br /&gt;
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Really? What a blessed Mother&#039;s Day present you are offering her. A chance to make a real decision and get some sleep.&lt;br /&gt;
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Kudos.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This? Is amazing. </p>
<p>Really? What a blessed Mother&#8217;s Day present you are offering her. A chance to make a real decision and get some sleep.</p>
<p>Kudos.</p>
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		<title>By: bumblebeeskies</title>
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		<dc:creator>bumblebeeskies</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 May 2008 05:13:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Julie,&lt;br /&gt;
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What you&#039;re offering to do, is right up there with acts of the saints! What a noble thing to do! I think it&#039;s wonderful that you actually &quot;get&quot; it, when so many others don&#039;t.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Julie,</p>
<p>What you&#8217;re offering to do, is right up there with acts of the saints! What a noble thing to do! I think it&#8217;s wonderful that you actually &#8220;get&#8221; it, when so many others don&#8217;t.</p>
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		<title>By: thomasina</title>
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		<dc:creator>thomasina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 May 2008 04:08:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Bless you!!!! I am a birthmother and you are a goddess in my book. This is a wonderful alternative for those considering a permanent solution (placement) to what is usually a temporary set of problems.  &lt;br /&gt;
I was forced into adoption by my parents and so what you offer would probably not have helped me. However, it could save others from the lifetime of regret I&#039;ve lived due to the loss of my son.&lt;br /&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Bless you!!!! I am a birthmother and you are a goddess in my book. This is a wonderful alternative for those considering a permanent solution (placement) to what is usually a temporary set of problems.  <br />
I was forced into adoption by my parents and so what you offer would probably not have helped me. However, it could save others from the lifetime of regret I&#8217;ve lived due to the loss of my son.</p>
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