I’m a stay at home Mom. My husband works very hard six days a week so that I can stay home. I’m the one that meets most of our daughters needs. Who am I kidding, I meet all of her needs.Besides my work out nights I’m the one the feeds her, dresses her, bathes her, plays with her, and reads to her. You get the idea. I’m her main caregiver. Recently on a family outing my husband became angry as I was being bossy and not letting him be a parent. He was right. His concerns are valid and he had every right to be upset. I have a very hard time switching gears and giving up control. I have a hard time letting him parent and make decisions. Its not that I dont trust him. Well perhaps I dont think he will do as good of a job as I do.


I dont know, I guess Mom's seem to have this intuition that has served us well all these years. Do Dad's have this? Im not so sure. I guess I feel like since im the one who takes care of her that I know her needs better than he does. But I’m not being fair to him. I need to give him a chance to be her parent. We were eating out and he attempted to give her some of his mashed potatoes… I stopped him saying “ oh she wont eat mashed potatoes”. He did not know that and he felt defeated. He was just trying to share with her. I did that a few other times as well. I was wrong on a few occasions as she did eat some of the rice her offered her.


John did not want our daughter running up & down a little hill at the zoo… I happened to know how much she really enjoys this and I allowed her to do it after he said “No”. He said that she would get muddy and he thought that would make me upset. He was right, as normally I would be concerned with the mud. But she loved this hill so much I just wanted her to be able to be a kid and get dirty. Sunday I went to see a Movie and gave my husband and daughter some much needed time alone together. Im trying to get better and he is a great dad. Can any other Mom's out there relate? any tips?

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