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02/01/07

Should Spanking be Illegal?

Posted by : Lauri in Adoptive Parenting Blog at 05:30 am , 328 words, 220 views  
Categories: Spanking


A few weeks ago I caught the tail end of a Today show interview about making spanking illegal for children ages three & under in a certain state ( I think it was Californa). The National Effective parenting initiative along with politicians were pushing to make this a new legislation. When doing some research on this it seems that other countries already have an anti spanking law in place. Boston was trying to pass a bill that would make putting hot sauce or soap in your child’s mouth Illegal as well as spanking. This is certainly a controversial subject.

Some parents rely on spanking as their sole form of discipline and they feel it works for them, while others may only use it in certain circumstances such as If a child plays with matches or runs in the street. And then there are the parents who are against spanking all together. I’m in the later group. I don’t agree with it and I don’t think it’s an effective way to parent. I don’t think that modeling aggression with physical punishment is the best lesson we can teach our children. I think there are more effective ways to set limits and teach lessons. I just don’t agree with it plain & simple. I wont get into a huge Pro’s & Con’s debate over spanking, as this is a subject that I know many people feel passionately about.

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Parents who spank feel strongly that its effective for them and those who don’t spank feel strongly about their choice and some people are in the middle. That being said I think that making spanking against the law is Political correctness gone awry, where do we draw the line? What's your view on making spanking illegal?


http://www.thebostonchannel.com/news/4582708/detail.html?subid=22100410&qs=1;bp=t


http://life.familyeducation.com/spanking/discipline/36133.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spanking

http://nospank.net/n-o66r.htm



Comments, Pingbacks:

Comment from: bethhyatt [Member] Email
Spanking is hitting...plain and simple. Of course it should be illegal. If a person did to another adult what they do to a child in the name of discipline, it would be assult. Even criminals in jail have their rights more protected when it comes to this issue. Why do our children deserve less respect? The purpose of discipline is supposed to be to teach self control.
PermalinkPermalink 02/01/07 @ 07:48
Comment from: Elle [Member] Email
I too think spanking is wrong, but to make it illegal, I don't know. That's a tough call. I do agree with the above comment that if an adult was spanked it would be assault.
PermalinkPermalink 02/01/07 @ 09:39
Comment from: arroller [Member] Email
We can't spank, but we can kill our babies that aren't even born. Things that make you go hmm....



PermalinkPermalink 02/01/07 @ 09:43
Comment from: Lauri [Member] Email · http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/
Thanks for the feedback
PermalinkPermalink 02/01/07 @ 10:35
Comment from: Lea Pisarik [Member] Email
I believe that spanking can be an effective form of discipline, when done correctly. Some parents think it is ok to yell at your children and I don't agree with that. I don't agree with the method of telling a child to do something 4 or 5 times and then, all of a sudden, slapping them the next time. But I do believe that spatting a child on the diaper or the thigh with firm "no", for looking you in the eye and disobeying what you just told them, can be very effective. This is what James Dobson discusses in his books and I have seen it used very effective with my nieces and nephews. It is not "hitting", if it is done properly and children know the difference. Many parents in our country used this very effectively for years in the past.
PermalinkPermalink 02/02/07 @ 11:36
Comment from: bernie [Member] Email · http://plancksconstant.org/
If yoou spank your child out of anger then you are misusing it as a pedagogic tool. If you wait a few hours until you are quite calm and then sneak up on your child and whack the crap out of him or her, then you are a cold-hearted lowlife bastard since whatever lesson you wanted to teach is long out of mind. In either case you are a beast.

Justify it all you wish, it doesn't change the very simple fact that a grown, mature, supposedly intelligent adult has no way to control a mere child except by severe beating. Yes, I have two children and never had to use my belt. I found my brain was a stronger weapon.

Now go ahead, tell me how you love your children and you're doing it for their own good.

If anyone is interested read my blog post children should never be spanked
PermalinkPermalink 02/02/07 @ 20:06
Comment from: k8c [Member] Email
No. I don't think spanking should be illeagal. My views on this have changed as I've watched my friends parent. I think calm, loving spanking with resolution afterwards can be very effective. I do NOT think this is the same as hitting a child out of anger or in the heat of the moment.
PermalinkPermalink 02/03/07 @ 00:57
Comment from: Chromesthesia [Member] Email
It's weird to answer old topics from months ago, but I've been doing a lot of research and stumbled onto Pearl and Ezzo.
I hate those guys.
They believe in "Spanking" a child starting at 4 months or 6 months. That bothers me deeply to put it mildly.
The problem with spanking is, where do people draw the line? What age should it start? Hands or belts? What age should it end or what for?
I don't know if they CAN make spanking illegal, I wouldn't mind, but I wish it wasn't socially acceptable to hit children. I hate it when a child "misbehaves" and the immediate response is, "give that child a spanking."
There has to be a better way to handle a kid than belts, hands or sticks or in the case of Pearl, quarter inch piping or large glue sticks!

And I fail to see how a person cannot hit a child in anger. It's still hitting, it's still meant to inflict pain and it can't be a good thing for the future in temrs of helping a child learn to deal with emotions or situations.
PermalinkPermalink 09/26/07 @ 15:36
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