Comments on: Semi-open Adoption: When Birthparents Walk Away http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/semi-open-adoption-when-birthparents-wal News and information on parenting the adopted child. Fri, 06 Nov 2009 00:42:25 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: prayerhelps http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/semi-open-adoption-when-birthparents-wal/comment-page-1#comment-1306 prayerhelps Wed, 28 Nov 2007 02:12:11 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/20/semi-open-adoption-when-birthparents-wal#comment-1306 I'll say this as quickly as I can. I think you are a strong and loving person to have done what you did for as long as you have.<br /> <br /> Next, I am a Birth Parent who had been trying to locate the Adoptive Parents for years. My family had been hiding the letters from me that the Adoptive mother had been sending me.<br /> <br /> I finally received a letter she had written back in October of 1993. I got it on Christmas of 2006. It was the best Christmas gift I have ever gotten! There was a photo album with pictures and a long letter about the health of my birth child.<br /> <br /> I am so grateful to that woman for keeping a closed adoption open for the sake of our child. For the sake of Love.<br /> <br /> May you find Peace, Faith, and Love wherever you go. Most of all Love (smile). I’ll say this as quickly as I can. I think you are a strong and loving person to have done what you did for as long as you have.

Next, I am a Birth Parent who had been trying to locate the Adoptive Parents for years. My family had been hiding the letters from me that the Adoptive mother had been sending me.

I finally received a letter she had written back in October of 1993. I got it on Christmas of 2006. It was the best Christmas gift I have ever gotten! There was a photo album with pictures and a long letter about the health of my birth child.

I am so grateful to that woman for keeping a closed adoption open for the sake of our child. For the sake of Love.

May you find Peace, Faith, and Love wherever you go. Most of all Love (smile).

]]> By: Faith Allen http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/semi-open-adoption-when-birthparents-wal/comment-page-1#comment-1305 Faith Allen Tue, 20 Nov 2007 16:30:41 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/20/semi-open-adoption-when-birthparents-wal#comment-1305 Good point!! I had never thought about that angle, but it makes sense. Thank you for sharing that perspective.<br /> <br /> - Faith Good point!! I had never thought about that angle, but it makes sense. Thank you for sharing that perspective.

- Faith

]]> By: hslowe http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/semi-open-adoption-when-birthparents-wal/comment-page-1#comment-1304 hslowe Tue, 20 Nov 2007 16:23:01 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/20/semi-open-adoption-when-birthparents-wal#comment-1304 Another reason she might have chosen to end contact is that it is extremely painful to have to deal with the agency as intermediary. It is really hard to be forced to continually deal with the scene of your loss. <br /> <br /> I am not saying this was why she chose to end contact, but it is a possibility. I have heard many birthparents say that this was a part of their thinking. Semi-openness is just such a limbo. No one enjoys living in limbo. Another reason she might have chosen to end contact is that it is extremely painful to have to deal with the agency as intermediary. It is really hard to be forced to continually deal with the scene of your loss.

I am not saying this was why she chose to end contact, but it is a possibility. I have heard many birthparents say that this was a part of their thinking. Semi-openness is just such a limbo. No one enjoys living in limbo.

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