Comments on: Rape/Incest & Adopted Child: Too Young to Remember http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young News and information on parenting the adopted child. Fri, 06 Nov 2009 00:42:25 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Faith Allen http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young/comment-page-1#comment-1350 Faith Allen Tue, 02 Oct 2007 14:13:03 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/06/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young#comment-1350 Thanks, Julia!!<br /> <br /> - Faith Thanks, Julia!!

- Faith

]]> By: Julia Fuller http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young/comment-page-1#comment-1349 Julia Fuller Tue, 02 Oct 2007 03:45:21 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/06/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young#comment-1349 Great Blog Faith, you covered this very well, with great reasoning. Great Blog Faith, you covered this very well, with great reasoning.

]]> By: Faith Allen http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young/comment-page-1#comment-1348 Faith Allen Thu, 06 Sep 2007 23:54:55 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/06/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young#comment-1348 Thank you for sharing your experience. I, too, know others who have memories from very young ages. It might be true that secure children living in loving homes do not have specific memories before age 3, but trauma memories are definitely retained. <br /> <br /> I have even read about people recovering memories of abuse from infancy. Because there was no language to attach to the memories, they experience their flashbacks physically. It's really tough.<br /> <br /> Take care,<br /> <br /> - Faith Thank you for sharing your experience. I, too, know others who have memories from very young ages. It might be true that secure children living in loving homes do not have specific memories before age 3, but trauma memories are definitely retained.

I have even read about people recovering memories of abuse from infancy. Because there was no language to attach to the memories, they experience their flashbacks physically. It’s really tough.

Take care,

- Faith

]]> By: AngelaW http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young/comment-page-1#comment-1347 AngelaW Thu, 06 Sep 2007 21:56:50 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/06/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young#comment-1347 There is a myth that children rarely retain memories before age 3.<br /> <br /> One of my earliest memories was when I was 21 months old. My younger brother's birth was very traumatic to me. <br /> <br /> I have an earlier memory from 18 months old. And maybe a memory from 12 month to 16 months of age. I don't have enough detail from this memory to tie it down to a certain time frame.<br /> <br /> I am not the only person with memories from this young an age. I have friends who have "young" memories too.<br /> <br /> The only reason that I can tag these memories with a specific age is because of my family. I told my mother the memory. We discussed it and she told me how old I was at the time. <br /> <br /> And all of these memories are anchored by strong emotions and trauma. There is a myth that children rarely retain memories before age 3.

One of my earliest memories was when I was 21 months old. My younger brother’s birth was very traumatic to me.

I have an earlier memory from 18 months old. And maybe a memory from 12 month to 16 months of age. I don’t have enough detail from this memory to tie it down to a certain time frame.

I am not the only person with memories from this young an age. I have friends who have “young” memories too.

The only reason that I can tag these memories with a specific age is because of my family. I told my mother the memory. We discussed it and she told me how old I was at the time.

And all of these memories are anchored by strong emotions and trauma.

]]> By: Faith Allen http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young/comment-page-1#comment-1346 Faith Allen Thu, 06 Sep 2007 18:55:29 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/06/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young#comment-1346 Yes, which is why I am glad that we are both speaking out. We need to dismantle misperceptions like the one that says that abusing a very young child does not affect him. It affects him profoundly.<br /> <br /> Take care,<br /> <br /> - Faith Yes, which is why I am glad that we are both speaking out. We need to dismantle misperceptions like the one that says that abusing a very young child does not affect him. It affects him profoundly.

Take care,

- Faith

]]> By: Kelly http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young/comment-page-1#comment-1345 Kelly Thu, 06 Sep 2007 14:47:45 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/06/rape-incest-aamp-adopted-child-too-young#comment-1345 I'm with you Faith. Kids know. One child was raped, orally and vaginally, when she was 2 by a relative, and she can tell you what happened.<br /> <br /> The words are not appropriate, but the memory and trauma are there.<br /> <br /> Don't dismiss a child's abuse just because they were young. It affects them deeper than you can imagine.<br /> <br /> You and I being survivors can understand this! I’m with you Faith. Kids know. One child was raped, orally and vaginally, when she was 2 by a relative, and she can tell you what happened.

The words are not appropriate, but the memory and trauma are there.

Don’t dismiss a child’s abuse just because they were young. It affects them deeper than you can imagine.

You and I being survivors can understand this!

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