Adoptive Parenting, Child Parenting - Potty Training- She’s not ready

12/20/06

Potty Training- She’s not ready

Posted by : Lauri in Adoptive Parenting Blog at 05:14 am , 422 words, 122 views
Categories: Potty Training

I get asked, “ so have you started Potty Training yet?” often since Livi turned two and the answer is yes and no. Yes I have started and no she is not ready. I have introduced the potty, we read & watch “ Once upon a Potty” and I put her on it usually twice a day for starters and she is not ready… plain & simple. My Mother's intuition tells me this as well as some signs she is not showing me. I do think she is capable, she understands the concept I just don’t think she is mature enough. She will have a poopy diaper and I will ask “ Did you Poop?” and she will say No. She does not seem really motivated to go on the potty, she does not verbalize when she goes, although she knows the words for the bodily functions.

She is not there yet… oh how I wish she were. We still have poop issues and how easier & cheaper it would be if she would go on the potty. Per the experts most children aren’t ready until closer to 2 ½ and boys even later than that. When she decides she is ready I don’t see it being an issue. I will continue to offer the potty, her pull-ups, and big girl underwear. I try to encourage but I’m not forcing the issue. We have a potty chair in the bathroom and I will still offer it to her. I’m kind of putting Potty Training on the back burner and reading her cues. I figure in February I will try again more consistently and watch for signs that she is ready.

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I introduced the potty when she was 16 months and then she was all for it and was telling me when she went. Then she regressed and now she seems to be bashful about it. I tell her everyone Poop’s Liv. Tom Cruise & The Queen of England... they poop too.

Signs of Readiness

1.The child can verbalize his/her needs & has words for his/her bodily functions

2.The child's bladder is maturing and he/she wakes up dry or stays dryer longer

3.The child comes to you wanting to be changed

4.The Child shows an interest in the Potty

Tips

1.Introduce the potty slowly& let the child sit on it clothed

2.Dont pressure or rush

3.praise every attempt

4.Read your childs cues, look for signs he/she is ready

Ok you expert Mama Potty Trainer's out there. Please share your best tips & secrets

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Comment from: Lauri [Member]

· http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/

ctmom123... thanks for the link & info

Permalink 12/20/06 @ 07:29

Comment from: ctmom123 [Member]

I was very frustrated as well with potty training. When I was researching potty training a common theme seemed to be praise and positive reinforcement. I came across a website called www.pottytrainingrewards.com. We hung it in the kitchen and named the little boy on the front of the package, Bobby. My son could not wait to go to the potty so he could push the button, hear the praising message, and get his chocolate reward from, Bobby. It really got my son excited about using the potty himself and it was fun for him. Because he became so involved, potty training was easy. So give it a try.

Permalink 12/20/06 @ 07:52

Comment from: Elle [Member]

The one thing I have learned is not to use candy as a motive for potty training. At least this won't work in our house. The boy is a sugar fiend! And way too smart. He will quickly learn that if he goes on the potty he will get candy and then come to expect it. When we started I made a potty chart and bought stickers. He was more into peeling the stickers off. I try every so often with the potty, but he just is not mature enough yet either. I'll give it another go after the first of the year.

Permalink 12/20/06 @ 09:04

Comment from: princess421 [Member]

We did not bride or should I say reward with items.

We did give lots of applause though.

I introduced it at about 18 months. Never pushed her and she did just fine. Although, she was backwards. She would sleep through the night and stay dry long before she made it through the day.

We consistently offered it and took her shortly after drinks and meals to at least try. She never cared if she was wet or not. We also never got mad at her for "accidents".

Lauren

Permalink 12/20/06 @ 12:39

Comment from: claire [Member]

I toilet trained my 3 boys in another country, where we did not have carpets on the floor, but tile. As soon as we felt they were ready (22-24 months at the latest) we dispensed with diapers except for bed time. I truly believe that this helped with the training. No comfie pullups - just a wet or soiled pair of underpants, that most kids could not wait to have taken off. More laundry initially, but the kids were potty trained quickly.
Now, we'll see how it goes with my baby girl on our carpeted rugs...
L.

Permalink 12/23/06 @ 14:19

Comment from: k8c [Member]

Lauren's applause story made me remember and smile. A little girl I nanny-ed for followed me into the bathroom one day. I asked, "Where're you going, Abs?" She, confused that I would even need to ask, replied, "I'm coming to clap for you."

Permalink 12/25/06 @ 01:17

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