I’m a newbie to the attachment-parenting world. While I don’t do every thing suggested. I don’t wear my child, because she is darn heavy. However the whole wearing her idea really appeals to me. Every time I see a Mom carrying her child in a sling, I yearn to carry my girl like that. She is 29 lbs. I even saw this new toddler hip seat contraption and I was tempted to buy it. I tried to carry her in Russia a traditional baby carrier contraption, she was only 19 lbs then but the straps dug into my shoulders and my back was hurting. I lasted only five minutes.

Now let me get back to my subject. I guess I view attachment parenting as parenting with your heart. I have said this over & over… but there is something very healing about giving my daughter what I did not get as a child. I’m not talking material objects. I mean allowing her to be her own person and letting her know she matters. I remember being chastised for being too shy or too sensitive. I happen to believe that those qualities make me special. I care so much about how she feels. I want her to explore, discover and learn the natural consequences for her actions. I want to raise her to trust her instincts and to be a caring person. Many people assume that because I’m sensitive that I am doormat. That’s far from the truth. I have left jobs, relationships and toxic friendships. I just tend to do it in a very non- confrontational way. That’s just how I am.

I want to nurture my daughters God given personality traits. I don’t expect her to be like me. I’m glad she is not shy. I want her to discover her talents and learn to use them. So I guess attachment parenting in short to me is caring about the way she feels. I love the way Jan Hunt summed up attachment parenting in the article seen here.

Jan Hunt, Msc wrote “As the Golden Rule suggests, attachment parenting is parenting the child the way we wish we had been treated in childhood, the way we wish we were treated by everyone now, and the way we want our grandchildren to be treated. With attachment parenting, we are giving an example of love and trust. Our children deserve to learn what compassion is, and they learn that most of all by our example. If our children do not learn compassion from us, when will they learn it? The bottom line is that all children behave as well as they are treated - by their parents and by everyone else in their life”

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