I swear if I hear my husband mutter those words once more I may go crazy. I interrupted his very important computer video game of saving the world or some other equally important game to ask for help with our daughter. As usual on a sunday morning I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off doing morning chores so that I could enjoy the rest of my day and be involved with my daughter & husband. I try to do chores when my daughter is napping or when my husband is home so that he can be with our girl. She stands at the gate crying “Up” while I’m doing laundry or taking out the trash. I needed help this particular Sunday morning; my husband snuck downstairs to his computer and got wrapped up in a game.


Soon he would be leaving for four hours of bowling fun. He tends to get in a time warp and while he thinks he is only down there for 30 minutes, 3 hours can fly by. I went downstairs and asked him if he could come and help me. He said give me 5 minutes. 20 minutes later he was still wrapped up in his game. After I reminded him again to please come up stairs he did but was clearly not happy and hesitantly started supervising Livi take a bath. When I asked him to towel her off & dress her he said those words that make my blood boil. “Its your job, you’re the Mom”. I remained calm, picked up the linens and said “ well today its your job” and I went downstairs to start laundry. I have had it.


Because I’m a stay at home Mom my husband has decided that anything to be done within the home or with our daughter is my job. I don’t get a lunch hour, I don’t get weekends off, and I don’t get four hours to go bowling. God forbid I complain because then he will say well you wanted to be a stay at home Mom. I don’t think he realizes how much I do. A few weeks ago I went to see a movie . My husband watched our daughter for three hours. I phoned as I was coming home and asked how she was doing, he said breathlesly that she was bouncing off the walls. She is always like that I replied with a giggle. I think I will be going to the movies more often. Not only does it give me a break, it gives my husband a taste of what “My job” is really like.

Now that my anger has subsided. It seems I make my husband out to be a caveman of sorts in my posts. He did actually say " Its your job" and for that he deserves a big kick in the behind, but in his defense he is a supportive husband and is trying.