Comments on: Is Clingy a good thing? http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/is-clingy-a-good-thing News and information on parenting the adopted child. Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:01:19 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: angelkisses http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/is-clingy-a-good-thing/comment-page-1#comment-476 angelkisses Tue, 06 Feb 2007 19:44:42 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/02/06/is-clingy-a-good-thing#comment-476 Do you have a ergo carrier or hip hammock? Mine saved me on so many days and it allows you to have your hands free. <br /> <br /> While clingy is still insecure attachment...it is a form of attachment but not secure. My DS was highly clingy and actually still likes to be held much more than a typical 3.5 yo...that could also be the sensory seeker in him as well. <br /> <br /> It is a very hard thing to live with but when you finally have that major breakthrough, you will be so thrilled...until the regression that almost always follows. LOL...but then attachment gets even stronger. We have been home 3 years in a month and we have had healthy attachment for the past 5 months...with no regressions. Let me tell you...it is heaven and you will enjoy every second of it because you both worked so hard to get there. <br /> <br /> Hang in there...<br /> Karen Do you have a ergo carrier or hip hammock? Mine saved me on so many days and it allows you to have your hands free.

While clingy is still insecure attachment…it is a form of attachment but not secure. My DS was highly clingy and actually still likes to be held much more than a typical 3.5 yo…that could also be the sensory seeker in him as well.

It is a very hard thing to live with but when you finally have that major breakthrough, you will be so thrilled…until the regression that almost always follows. LOL…but then attachment gets even stronger. We have been home 3 years in a month and we have had healthy attachment for the past 5 months…with no regressions. Let me tell you…it is heaven and you will enjoy every second of it because you both worked so hard to get there.

Hang in there…
Karen

]]> By: Lauri http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/is-clingy-a-good-thing/comment-page-1#comment-475 Lauri Tue, 06 Feb 2007 17:33:52 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/02/06/is-clingy-a-good-thing#comment-475 Thanks for the feedback... I hate complaining because she is attaching and doing well( I think), but geesh is it draining Thanks for the feedback… I hate complaining because she is attaching and doing well( I think), but geesh is it draining

]]> By: Ani http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/is-clingy-a-good-thing/comment-page-1#comment-474 Ani Tue, 06 Feb 2007 17:02:20 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/02/06/is-clingy-a-good-thing#comment-474 I could've written this post! <br /> Our 18 month old is in prime clingy phase, he'll even stand outside the bathroom door and cry for the whole 2 minutes I'm in there (while his dad tries to coax him with games, blocks, anything!). It is a phase, the books say so, the drs say so - I just hope it passess soon! I could’ve written this post!
Our 18 month old is in prime clingy phase, he’ll even stand outside the bathroom door and cry for the whole 2 minutes I’m in there (while his dad tries to coax him with games, blocks, anything!). It is a phase, the books say so, the drs say so – I just hope it passess soon!

]]> By: Brian http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/is-clingy-a-good-thing/comment-page-1#comment-473 Brian Tue, 06 Feb 2007 16:47:58 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/02/06/is-clingy-a-good-thing#comment-473 I feel for you. Our 20 month old is "up". I only deal with her for a few hours a day and my arms are tired, I can't imagine what I'd be like all day.<br /> <br /> Of course I know, as soon as she's completely independent and only wanting to be held once in a while, I'll miss it. I feel for you. Our 20 month old is “up”. I only deal with her for a few hours a day and my arms are tired, I can’t imagine what I’d be like all day.

Of course I know, as soon as she’s completely independent and only wanting to be held once in a while, I’ll miss it.

]]> By: Mary Owlhaven http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/is-clingy-a-good-thing/comment-page-1#comment-472 Mary Owlhaven Tue, 06 Feb 2007 16:40:59 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/02/06/is-clingy-a-good-thing#comment-472 The anxious attachment stage is the stage closest to strong healthy attachment. Get her thru this stage and things will be lots better. I bet even 6 months from now things will be lots easier. Hang in there...you'll make it!<br /> <br /> Mary The anxious attachment stage is the stage closest to strong healthy attachment. Get her thru this stage and things will be lots better. I bet even 6 months from now things will be lots easier. Hang in there…you’ll make it!

Mary

]]> By: Julie http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/is-clingy-a-good-thing/comment-page-1#comment-471 Julie Tue, 06 Feb 2007 16:01:27 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/02/06/is-clingy-a-good-thing#comment-471 I remember those days -- they went on way too long (from my perspective). But it is a much healthier stage than rejecting you or mom shopping.<br /> <br /> Hang in there -- I totally remember the "not wanting to be touched by anyone" feeling after my velcro kid had stuck to me all day! I remember those days — they went on way too long (from my perspective). But it is a much healthier stage than rejecting you or mom shopping.

Hang in there — I totally remember the “not wanting to be touched by anyone” feeling after my velcro kid had stuck to me all day!

]]> By: bethhyatt http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/is-clingy-a-good-thing/comment-page-1#comment-470 bethhyatt Tue, 06 Feb 2007 13:22:49 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/02/06/is-clingy-a-good-thing#comment-470 Dalton was in this phase for quite a while. When he first came home he didn't seem to care who held him as long as someone did. But then one day he wanted me - and only me - all the time. I decided if he wanted to be held I would hold him. It was very physically difficult until I discovered that he was content to be in a backpack carrier. Then it was no problem. I carried him most of the time for about six months and then he grew out of it. He is now very strongly bonded with me, but also quite independent so I think it was a good thing. Dalton was in this phase for quite a while. When he first came home he didn’t seem to care who held him as long as someone did. But then one day he wanted me – and only me – all the time. I decided if he wanted to be held I would hold him. It was very physically difficult until I discovered that he was content to be in a backpack carrier. Then it was no problem. I carried him most of the time for about six months and then he grew out of it. He is now very strongly bonded with me, but also quite independent so I think it was a good thing.

]]> By: princess421 http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/is-clingy-a-good-thing/comment-page-1#comment-469 princess421 Tue, 06 Feb 2007 13:22:02 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/02/06/is-clingy-a-good-thing#comment-469 This is yet another phase kids go through. Hers may be exaggerated given her background but she should grow out of it. <br /> <br /> It is draining and frustrating. <br /> <br /> Be thankful she is still a napper. :-)<br /> <br /> love,<br /> Lauren This is yet another phase kids go through. Hers may be exaggerated given her background but she should grow out of it.

It is draining and frustrating.

Be thankful she is still a napper. :-)

love,
Lauren

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