It’s Father’s Day and across the country dads are opening up presents: ties, barbecue tools, car gadgets, the latest technological mechanism guaranteed to make their life easier. Or perhaps they are going to spend the day on the golf course–after breakfast in bed, no doubt! Whatever it is, I hope all dads get to celebrate.
I’ve made this observation before, but it seems that the adoption literature is full of stories written by adoptive mothers. We hear their voices and know their perspective. No doubt it has to do with the fact that when it comes to adoption, often it is the woman who is the driving force.
But what of adoptive fathers? Who are these men who willingly go along with their wives when the topic of adoption is brought up? Who are these guys who trust that they will love a daughter or son born to another man? Who completes the necessary paperwork, contributing their biography for the home study? Who dutifully cleans the house before the social worker comes? And who often sacrifices vast amounts of money so children can join their family? Or who attends MAPP classes if foster care is their route to adoption?
Who are these folks who go without sleep caring for their children when they are sick? Who teach their kids the difference between a ball and a strike? And the difference between right and wrong?
Who are these guys who spend hours throwing and kicking balls in the backyard, sharing the rules of professional sports–like when a two-point conversion makes sense as opposed to setting for the extra point in pro football? Who are these special men who sit attentively during music concerts and plays? Who joyously cheer their children’s achievements on the soccer field or the baseball diamond?
Granted, ALL dads are special, but to me, adoptive fathers are truly a rare breed. And I think they deserve a special acknowledgement.
Thank you for your courage to trust that you WILL love your adopted children. And thank you for your ability to actually love them once they are in your home.
Here’s to you! Happy Father’s Day.
I hope you get the best looking tie in the store!