It’s Father’s Day and across the country dads are opening up presents: ties, barbecue tools, car gadgets, the latest technological mechanism guaranteed to make their life easier. Â Or perhaps they are going to spend the day on the golf course–after breakfast in bed, no doubt! Â Whatever it is, I hope all dads get to celebrate.
I’ve made this observation before, but it seems that the adoption literature is full of stories written by adoptive mothers. Â We hear their voices and know their perspective. Â No doubt it has to do with the fact that when it comes to adoption, often it is the woman who is the driving force.
But what of adoptive fathers? Â Who are these men who willingly go along with their wives when the topic of adoption is brought up? Â Who are these guys who trust that they will love a daughter or son born to another man? Â Who completes the necessary paperwork, contributing their biography for the home study? Who dutifully cleans the house before the social worker comes? Â And who often sacrifices vast amounts of money so children can join their family? Â Or who attends MAPP classes if foster care is their route to adoption?
Who are these folks who go without sleep caring for their children when they are sick? Â Who teach their kids the difference between a ball and a strike? Â And the difference between right and wrong?
Who are these guys who spend hours throwing and kicking balls in the backyard, sharing the rules of professional sports–like when a two-point conversion makes sense as opposed to setting for the extra point in pro football? Â Who are these special men who sit attentively during music concerts and plays? Â Who joyously cheer their children’s achievements on the soccer field or the baseball diamond?
Granted, ALL dads are special, but to me, adoptive fathers are truly a rare breed. Â And I think they deserve a special acknowledgement.
Thank you for your courage to trust that you WILL love your adopted children. Â And thank you for your ability to actually love them once they are in your home.
Here’s to you! Â Happy Father’s Day.
I hope you get the best looking tie in the store!