Before becoming a Mom I use to talk to my friend & a Mom of three kids. I inquired about how she and her husband deal with arguments and issues that come up in their marriage. I asked if they fight/argue in front of the kids? I remember her saying that they “don’t have time to fight”. One thing that concerned me prior to becoming a Mom is how to deal with little rifts & not so little arguments that arise when your parents.Its inevitable. I feel strongly about not arguing with my husband in front of our daughter. I don’t want her to see us like that or pick up on the tension, although I’m sure she still does even when we avoid talking because we are angry.


Children are very receptive to our emotional state. Our daughter is very sensitive and will burst into tears if my husband tickles me or hugs me. We are working on this.I want to be a good role model for her in all aspects.I will never tolerate any type of yelling and I pray that she never does either. I really don’t know if its better that she witness us have issues and deal with them in a proper healthy manner. Talking it out, maybe debating in a nice way and apologize or agree to disagree. Can we really shelter her and is that a healthy thing to do in the first place.

But it’s not that simple. I wish I could say that we always have diplomatic arguments.We may try our best to shelter her but I know she picks up on the tension. What my friend said is true,we do have less time to argue. My husband works six days a week and goes bowling on the seventh day. Our time together is limited and I certainly don’t wish to spend it giving him the silent treatment. But lets face it…. arguments happen. How do you deal with arguments? do you have civil arguments in front of your children? or do you make the effort to shelter them? What do you think is the best approach?