Comments on: Chatterbox http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/chatterbox News and information on parenting the adopted child. Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:01:19 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: 3crazykids http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/chatterbox/comment-page-1#comment-1738 3crazykids Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:01:19 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/02/19/chatterbox#comment-1738 We fought hard to remove our youngest adopted daughter's brother from an awful home. Our son, now diagnosed with ADHD and learning disabilities and a newly found chromosome deletion...has been so frustrating! We feel guilty all of the time for not loving him the same as our girls. It just seems that all of our time is spent on his negative energy and the girls who behave like normal children are left out? The girls are good students and try hard in all they do. Our little man though seems to control our family and demand all of our time. Now it seems that this very cute, seemingly normal boy will need a guardian for the rest of his life! I don't want to raise his children too! Sorry I can't be more encouraging but I am at my wits end this week. We fought hard to remove our youngest adopted daughter’s brother from an awful home. Our son, now diagnosed with ADHD and learning disabilities and a newly found chromosome deletion…has been so frustrating! We feel guilty all of the time for not loving him the same as our girls. It just seems that all of our time is spent on his negative energy and the girls who behave like normal children are left out? The girls are good students and try hard in all they do. Our little man though seems to control our family and demand all of our time. Now it seems that this very cute, seemingly normal boy will need a guardian for the rest of his life! I don’t want to raise his children too! Sorry I can’t be more encouraging but I am at my wits end this week.

]]> By: cmh0150 http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/chatterbox/comment-page-1#comment-605 cmh0150 Sat, 28 Mar 2009 19:44:11 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/02/19/chatterbox#comment-605 thank you for sharing.... we are considering adoption of a child who has been diagnosed with ODD and ADHD... he has has prior failed adoptions.... we are really trying to see if we can be the ones who have the capacity and patience but, right now, based on what we are reading, may have to keep looking.... thank you for sharing…. we are considering adoption of a child who has been diagnosed with ODD and ADHD… he has has prior failed adoptions…. we are really trying to see if we can be the ones who have the capacity and patience but, right now, based on what we are reading, may have to keep looking….

]]> By: dmuise http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/chatterbox/comment-page-1#comment-604 dmuise Mon, 23 Feb 2009 18:14:28 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/02/19/chatterbox#comment-604 I am not an adoptive parent, but am a graduate student looking to learn more about these types of relationships that you speak of. If any of you will take the time to complete my survey I would be very grateful. The survey should take you less than 15 minutes. Your participation will be completely anonymous as names are not attached to the survey. If you have any questions or concerns you can email me at dmuise@bridgew.edu. Just click the link below to begin or copy/paste it into your browser.<br /> <br /> http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=F7BKtnjHlcafwv09xdhAVQ_3d_3d<br /> <br /> Thank you<br /> Danika<br /> I am not an adoptive parent, but am a graduate student looking to learn more about these types of relationships that you speak of. If any of you will take the time to complete my survey I would be very grateful. The survey should take you less than 15 minutes. Your participation will be completely anonymous as names are not attached to the survey. If you have any questions or concerns you can email me at dmuise@bridgew.edu. Just click the link below to begin or copy/paste it into your browser.

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=F7BKtnjHlcafwv09xdhAVQ_3d_3d

Thank you
Danika

]]> By: Renee E http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/chatterbox/comment-page-1#comment-603 Renee E Sun, 22 Feb 2009 05:07:36 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/02/19/chatterbox#comment-603 Taben -<br /> <br /> Thank you so much for your comment. I really needed that quote from your mom today! Sometimes it is so hard and we often feel so guilty for not "feeling" these mushy, love feelings for our kids. It is always nice to know that there are others out there who understand. Be blessed in your journey with your kiddos.<br /> <br /> - Renee Taben -

Thank you so much for your comment. I really needed that quote from your mom today! Sometimes it is so hard and we often feel so guilty for not “feeling” these mushy, love feelings for our kids. It is always nice to know that there are others out there who understand. Be blessed in your journey with your kiddos.

- Renee

]]> By: taben http://adoptive-parenting.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/chatterbox/comment-page-1#comment-602 taben Sun, 22 Feb 2009 01:16:14 +0000 http://adoptive-par.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/02/19/chatterbox#comment-602 Thanks for posting this. There are so many things that ring true to us in your post, including ODD symptoms, the fact that foster children are bound to have issues, the fact that often we do not know what we are getting into and the fact that parenting these kids requires self control. <br /> My mother says, "It is not always about attaching to these kids or even loving them. It is about being committed and acting in a loving way". I have found this to be very true.<br /> Taben Thanks for posting this. There are so many things that ring true to us in your post, including ODD symptoms, the fact that foster children are bound to have issues, the fact that often we do not know what we are getting into and the fact that parenting these kids requires self control.
My mother says, “It is not always about attaching to these kids or even loving them. It is about being committed and acting in a loving way”. I have found this to be very true.
Taben

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