Happy New Year. It’s a whole New Year, a fresh& clean slate. Here are a few of my parenting goals, goals not resolutions. I like to set goals for myself… both short term and long term. These goals in particular are mighty important to me and I look forward to sharing my success and slip-ups along the way. Here is to a Happy & Healthy 2007 for all.



Have Livi evaluated for her sensory issues… buck up and join the IEP/IFSP world and begin the process of advocating and getting the help we need. (Remember Im privy to the inner workings of the system as a former service coordinator).Accept the help and don’t beat myself up for not doing it sooner. Its ok that I wanted to give her time to attach and truly see what behaviors would dissipate with time & which behaviors raised red flags. Its ok that I maybe did not want to acknowledge that she needed help. The important thing is that we are doing it, we are starting and I hope 2007 brings us the answers and help we are seeking so that Livi may thrive & grow.


Sharpen my parenting skills…. Recognize my strengths & weaknesses and work on the areas that need some improvement. I want to handle her ebbs & flows with dignity & grace ever careful that I am always setting an example for her. I also know I’m human and I will not be so critical of myself.

Seek support… find playgroups, other Moms, Adoption support groups in my area.This is a tough job and I need support.

Let go …… of all toxic things & people in my life. I’m letting go of those who have offered little support in regards to our adoption. Holding on & harboring anger is doing me no good whatsoever. I have extended the olive branch a number of times. I have had emails gone unanswered. Despite all my attempts to reach out. I have not failed here. I’m leaving the door open and I hope for better times. I am letting go of the anger & guilt.


Make time for myself…. Treating myself well mind, body and spirit is one of the best things I can model for Livi. I give, give and give some more and then feel guilty taking time for myself. No more guilt… I deserve a Sunday at the movies…. alone. I deserve a quiet bubble bath. I deserve a day at the salon. It’s ok to leave her with the Jazzercise sitter for an hour while I workout. Livi’s needs always come first, but she can see that her Mama has enough self-respect to take care of herself.

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