Re-establishing Daily Routine

January 29th, 2010

518984_a_little_girl_saying_good_night_1The holidays have come and gone. If you're anything like me, I'm still not back to my normal routine. I feel that I'm almost there, but not quite. It's hard to wrap my head around a whole new year, and the fact that my vacation is over. Reality is calling, and I'm trying not to answer. Chances are you and your children may be experiencing the same thing. The holidays were a busy time of year. It was filled with get-togethers, obscenely early shopping trips, delicious sugary treats, and time off of work and school. It was a time of year to be enjoyed and cherished. But once it's over, it's time to get back to your daily routine. While it may be… [more]

Starting Over, an Advantage of Homeschooling Special Needs Children

May 5th, 2008

With about six weeks of school left, it has become apparent that my teenage daughter, Lyn, cannot possibly pass four of her fourth grade classes. She has special needs that include a learning disability, fetal alcohol, ADD, and verbal Apraxia. There cannot be any benefit to her education or her self-esteem to continue to fail for the rest of the school year. If she were in public school, instead of homeschooling, there wouldn’t be any choice. She would have to finish out the current school year before starting summer school. What a waste of time and energy. However, since our children are homeschooling Lyn focused on just the two classes that she was passing all of last week. She ignored the classes she was failing giving… [more]

Homework – Just Say No?

April 15th, 2007
Categories: Homework

radWhat about other homework hassles? One blog addresses a child’s outright refusal to do homework. Is it really possible for even the PARENTS to finally say no more? I think so! Among the comments on that blog, Kelly addresses a recommendation given to her by a therapist that the teacher handle school issues and the parent handle home issues. I am surely in agreement with that suggestion. Sometimes homework battles keep a child from being able to function properly at home. The issues may set up parent/child control battles beyond the family’s ability to integrate. If the child has troubles with attachment, you can be certain that this IS the case; homework issues will have… [more]

Homework Hassles: Wandering and Inattentiveness

April 15th, 2007
Categories: Homework

boredWhat sounds like a minor problem can often turn into quite a large homework issue. The problem is how do we help a child who constantly wanders or has difficulty sitting still to do homework? In particular, how can we help an adopted child who may have special issues to work around?(The following suggestions can work well a child with ADHD or a child without ADHD.) If the child is wandering because he has a case of “wiggles”, it can help if mom offers an additional homework “assignment” of getting the wiggles out. For example, ask him to “First, run around the house 5 times” or “Before you get started, do 9 jumping jacks, 4 toe touches and 2 push-ups”. With wiggles out, some… [more]

Homework Hang-ups: Refusal

April 13th, 2007
Categories: Homework

refusalSo, you have the routine set up in a way that should work for your particular children and family. What do you do when your child resists the routine?? With over two-thirds of my children having an actual diagnosis of RAD (reactive attachment disorder) and/or ODD (oppositional defiant disorder), resistance is the norm at our house rather than the exception. Here are some ways we’ve handled this, at least as far as their resistance impacts their homework. As discussed in the previous blog about routine, we have a very set structure and routine each afternoon. The mantra goes like this: “snack, chore, bedroom, homework” and the kids are expected to do their routine in that order. Many times… [more]

Homework Hassles?

April 13th, 2007
Categories: Homework

homeworkIn reading through the Adoption.com forum topics, I noticed a recurrence of threads on the subject of homework hassles. What parent has not ever faced homework hassles?? I’d venture to say that every parent of a school aged child has encountered the subject more than once! I have 26 children, including 20 still at home and 18 of those being school aged. You can imagine that homework is no small issue here. I am often asked how I handle homework issues, particularly when you have more than one child trying to do homework at the same time. If you have children that have any special needs, that can add extra frustration or confusion to homework… [more]