New Baby, New Routine

February 20th, 2010

New Baby, New RoutineI have an admission to make: I am a former (definitely former--definitely mostly former) control freak. Granted, it's gotten a lot better since Bear made his debut in May of 2006; having kids kind of takes the edge off in that way. And in many ways, I have learned to let the little things go. I'm a lot more relaxed, a lot less bothered by things beyond my control. However, while I am flexible, I still appreciate routine. I'm not rigidly adhered to our schedule, but I do like predictability. Prior to the addition of Bella to our family, we had a pretty simple but predictable routine.  Toddlerhood was making way for the preschool circuit, and we were at the… [more]

Re-establishing Daily Routine

January 29th, 2010

518984_a_little_girl_saying_good_night_1The holidays have come and gone. If you're anything like me, I'm still not back to my normal routine. I feel that I'm almost there, but not quite. It's hard to wrap my head around a whole new year, and the fact that my vacation is over. Reality is calling, and I'm trying not to answer. Chances are you and your children may be experiencing the same thing. The holidays were a busy time of year. It was filled with get-togethers, obscenely early shopping trips, delicious sugary treats, and time off of work and school. It was a time of year to be enjoyed and cherished. But once it's over, it's time to get back to your daily routine. While it may be… [more]

Focusing on Flexibility

January 6th, 2010

The Need for Flexibility - Adoptive ParentingBeing that I'm what some would consider an acquired taste for many different reasons, I've always been a bit of the proverbial "black sheep" in my family. One way in which this most frequently comes to light (at least in recent years) is in my parenting. Don't get me wrong: I'm a pretty normal--if a tiny bit crunchy at times (i.e., leaning toward natural/attachment parenting, but that's a topic for another post entirely!)--happy-go-lucky mom and we lead a pretty ordinary, wonderful life. We spend a lot of time together as a family, and with my husband's rotating schedule, day trips and endless quality time with both daddy and mommy is very much a regular option/experience. However… [more]

Bedtime Issues – part 3

February 19th, 2007
Categories: Bedtime

sleepMore ideas and thoughts on bedtime issues with older children: c. Bedtime routine. Determine if this will be done before or after the set bedtime at your house. For example, if bedtime is 9pm, does that mean that all of the pre-bed routine needs to be completed before 9pm? Or does it mean that the child can begin preparations at 9pm? Being very clear cut about what the routine is and when it is expected to be completed can take a lot of hassle out of bedtime. If it seems that this is the area that your kids are getting hung up on, my recommendation for this would be a written plan. We’ve done one and posted it on the back of the… [more]

Bedtime Issues – part 2

February 19th, 2007
Categories: Bedtime

sleep einsteinIn Part One, I talked more about bedtime issues with young children. Here, I will talk about bedtime issues with our older kids. 3. Preschoolers through High School (Preschoolers may be young for these ideas; please adjust as they fit your individual child.) a. Set a bedtime by age or grade and stick to it, for the most part. Make exceptions when needed, of course, But, having a “rule” takes the fight out. If one of my kids wants to argue about the bedtime, I can explain that it’s the “family rule” and, somehow, that makes it less able to be fought with? They don’t get mad at me anymore, at least. They get mad… [more]

Bedtime Issues

February 19th, 2007
Categories: Bedtime

bedtime drawingWhen I hear a parent utter the word “bedtime”, I clench up a little right off. It nearly always is followed by a parent’s frustrations with bedtime issues. How can we all make bedtime more pleasant for ourselves and our kids?? I do not have the magic answer. Just to state that up front so y’all are not mislead. I’ll just share a little of what I’ve experienced so far – and if you’d like to share another idea, please add on! I’m sure we’d all love to learn more! First of all, bedtimes with babies are totally different from bedtimes with toddlers. Toddlers are totally different from preschoolers. However, in my experience, once you get… [more]

Love Thursday- Sleeping Children

January 25th, 2007
Categories: Bedtime

What is it about sleeping babies & children? I love photos of sleeping Children. They can stop me in my tracks and bring out something in me. I love watching my daughter sleep. I remember the first time she feel asleep in my arms, in the van shortly after leaving the baby home. I just felt so protective of her, like a Mama bear. My husband snapped a picture of that moment and I can honestly say I have never had that type of look on my face. It’s a very special picture to me and its the picture Im sharing with you today. Everyone who looks at the pictures mentions that I look angry in it, nope not angry. Protective is… [more]

My Sleep Solution

December 12th, 2006
Categories: Bedtime

When I worked as a Home visitor the most common complaint across the board was “ My child wont sleep”. This was the most prevalent and common issue parents asked for advice on. The second most popular issue was with picky eaters. It ranged from the child not sleeping in his/her own bed (co-sleeping was not encouraged by my old employer) or the child having such terrible tantrums and fits at bedtime. Many times the parent had to sleep with the child. In all cases bedtime was a huge ordeal. Most Moms’ were in tears as they explained the crying, screaming and tug of war that they had to face every night. Many parents told me it started innocently enough. They began co-sleeping… [more]