Mercy Trails Ranch

November 15th, 2011

horsesF-E-A-R-L-E-S-S  Letters spelled out in splashes of bright paint across the soft brown sides of the little horse.   A four legged canvas for the word that she wanted to stay forefront in her mind as she thought back to her time at the Ranch.  Words attached to memories.  Memories that she tucked away like treasures to be brought out in times of struggle and darkness.  Memories that would give her the strength to break free. Those memories threatened to flood her even now, fresh on her mind, as she stepped back to admire her art.  The intimidation at the size of her partner for the week- how the little mare seemed so large that first day.  She remembered her uncertainty the first time… [more]

Post Adoption Depression Syndrome (PADS)

September 1st, 2009

This is a very difficult post for me to write. I’ve felt strongly inclined to share my experiences with this topic, but at the same time, that doesn’t make it any easier for me to say the words. After Bear was born, I had a touch of what’s best defined as the “baby blues”. There were days that were rough, but for the most part, I just felt a little down. I was—and still am—blessed with a tremendous support team: my husband, my family and friends, an excellent OB and my amazing PCP. Postpartum Depression was very much a buzz word at the time of my experience with the “Baby Blues”; there was (and still is) little-to-no "shame factor" in admitting it or… [more]

Do Breastfed Babies Have Higher IQs

May 12th, 2008

A new study found that children who were exclusively breastfed for at least the first three months of life scored about six points higher on IQ tests at six years old then those who were bottle fed or partially bottle fed. As an adoptive parent, do you feel a twinge of guilt when you hear about this type of study? Yes, it is possible to breastfeed adopted babies for some people who are able to plan a few months in advance. However, it takes a lot of effort, doesn’t always work, and if the birthmother changes her mind, you are lactating for nothing. Not only did these children have higher IQs but also tested higher in other measure of cognitive development, such as thinking, learning… [more]

Co sleeping

December 15th, 2006

We have been home eight months now and until this past month our daughter age two has always slept in her own crib. She naps in her crib and sleeps in her crib through the night. Despite a rocky first few nights home thanks to jet lag she has never had any problems sleeping. She is known to fight her nap on occasion but she sleeps well at night. I remember bringing her into bed with us those first weeks home, willing to try anything to get some sleep. I was all for trying co-sleeping in those weeks home. I assumed I would co-sleep for a little while and then transition to her crib. She could never let down her guard or relax… [more]

Parenting with your heart

November 21st, 2006

I’m a newbie to the attachment-parenting world. While I don’t do every thing suggested. I don’t wear my child, because she is darn heavy. However the whole wearing her idea really appeals to me. Every time I see a Mom carrying her child in a sling, I yearn to carry my girl like that. She is 29 lbs. I even saw this new toddler hip seat contraption and I was tempted to buy it. I tried to carry her in Russia a traditional baby carrier contraption, she was only 19 lbs then but the straps dug into my shoulders and my back was hurting. I lasted only five minutes. Now let me get back to my subject. I guess I view… [more]