Big Brother, Little Sister

February 1st, 2010
Categories: Resiliency, Safety, Siblings

Big Brother, Little SisterMy children are daredevils. No, really. Okay, so they're not fearless, but they definitely like to try things out.  "Things" sometimes mean doing something that causes my heart to stop beating for just a second, though. But for the most part, they just tend to dive into any adventure. This pleases me greatly. Here's where my concern lies: Bear is almost four, and he has great balance, speed, and agility. Beauty, however, is almost three and has the speed down-pat, but lacks both balance and agility. This is chiefly due to the fact that she is a toe walker at all times. She is currently enrolled in an occupational therapy program that seems to help out a little bit, but she naturally… [more]

Choosing Child Care: Options Available to Adoptive Parents

November 20th, 2008

My background is in Early Childhood Education, and pre-motherhood, I worked for a social service agency that helped parents choose quality child care. I created and delivered workshops, and educational materials to help parents navigate the many options available to them. If you need, or desire, to put your child in a child care setting, here are some tips to keep in mind: Finding Child Care: Contact your Employee Assistance Program: Some companies offer on-site child care, discounted child care with contracted providers, dependent care flexible spending accounts (pre-tax dollars that can be used for child care expenses), and/or provide assistance in choosing child care in the form of onsite workshops in choosing child care and/or enhanced referral services (someone assigned to you to help you locate programs according… [more]

Today, March 22, Is World Water Day

March 22nd, 2008
Categories: Heritage, Safety

World Water Day is March 22 of each year as designated by the United Nations. Drawing attention to the conservation and development of water resources is the overall objective. Advocacy, publication, and organization of conferences with the year’s chosen theme is how they hope to increase public awareness. This year’s theme is “Sanitation.” The U.N. hopes to attract international attention to conservation and development of water resources through this yearly ritual. The safe disposal of human waste and the ability to maintain hygienic conditions, through disposal services and wastewater treatment is paramount to basic sanitation. These conditions that are taken for granted here in the United States are not possible in many developing countries. Of course, the lack of basic sanitation leaves many people at… [more]

How to Protect Your Adopted Child from Sexual Predators

August 10th, 2007
Categories: Safety

Spider (c) Lynda Bernhardt

The steps you need to take to protect your adopted child from sexual predators are similar to the steps taken to protect any child. However, there are some additional safeguards you should put into place to protect an adopted child from sexual predators.

1. Talk to your child about sexual predators.

It is hard to take away some of your child’s innocence by making him aware that there are “bad people” in the world. Unfortunately, you must take this step to protect your child. If you do not, then you risk a predator completely shattering your child’s innocence. It is better for a loving parent to remove a little innocence to protect a child than to leave a child completely vulnerable to… [more]

How to Protect Your Adopted Child from On-line Predators

August 9th, 2007
Categories: Safety

Owl (c) Lynda Bernhardt

While looking for related topics for my last post, Protecting Adopted Child from the Media, I stumbled upon a good post that was written last year called Talking to kids about sexual predators. As an abuse survivor myself who is parenting an adopted child, this post jumped out at me, particularly when Adrienne talked about protecting your child from on-line predators.

This reminded me of a scary Without a Trace episode in which a young teen went missing. He posted on an adoption search board that he was looking for his birthparents. A sexual predator claimed to be his birthfather and lured him away from his parents. Fortunately, the team saved the day before the boy was harmed… [more]

Dumb laws about children

July 18th, 2007
Categories: Safety

It's the middle of summer, and unless you are fortunate enough to have year round schooling, you're in the middle of summer vacation and probably praying for school to start again. To add a little levity, here are some dumb laws about children that should make you laugh. Arizona - Maricopa County: No more than six girls may live in any house. California - Community leaders passed an ordinance that makes it illegal for anyone to try and stop a child from playfully jumping over puddles of water. Florida - Under a 1959 ordinance, stubborn children were considered vagrants in Jupiter Inlet Colony, Fla. Hawaii - It used to be the law in Hawaii that children had to obey all "lawful and moral" commands of their parents. Massachusetts - Children… [more]

Top 5 Playground Tips

May 3rd, 2007
Categories: Safety

It’s that time of year again. This year we are older and wiser. Last summer my daughter was still falling often and not quite tall enough for most playground equipment. I expect that because my daughter is older and steadier on her feet that this summer will be a real hoot. 1.Come Prepared- sun block, a change of clothes, snacks and water. I’m always stunned when I see Moms come unprepared to the playground and they spend a few hours playing. I envy that type of spontaneous parenting but I can’t leave home without my bag of just in case stuff. 2.Stay clear of the playground Bully. We have all seen that certain child that takes every sandbox toy and is rough with… [more]

Blogging 101

January 5th, 2007
Categories: Safety

I have been blogging for well over a year now on my personal blog and since September on this fine site… it all started by becoming a fan of several blogs. I would see links to blogs on forums and quickly added many to my bookmarks and made some bloggy friends along the way. Starting out I decided it would be a good way to keep family & friends informed of our adoption process, thinking it would limit the “ hear anything yet” comments. In the beginning my blog was private, but as I got more & more involved in the blogging world I opened it up to anyone. I made many mistakes by being to personal and giving out to much… [more]

When A Child Is Abandoned

June 30th, 2006
Categories: Safety

So often, we read about the heartbreaking stories of a newborn baby left for dead, or even killed, by a frightened, desperate, unprepared, immature, parent. When that happens in a community there is a big push to remind everyone about the Safe Haven laws that are in place to protect against this kind of horrible crime. There are a lot of differing opinions on the value and the utility of Safe Haven laws and whether or not they even accomplish their intended purpose. Click on this link to read an informative article posted on on the topic. Safe Haven laws have supporters and detractors. Here is a quote on this link from one of its detractors: The mindset behind “safe abandonment” laws does… [more]