Temper Tantrums

February 17th, 2009

Our son Z is nine years old but really, emotionally, he is four. Confusing I know, but it is reality of raising a child who has been emotionally stunted by his past. Z can throw a tantrum unlike any child I have ever seen. In fact, I hope I never see another child throw a "Z Tantrum". Nothing about his behavior would indicate that he has graced the earth with his presence for a solid nine years. Z has thrown these fits since the beginning. Unlike T, Z never had a honeymoon period. His behaviors cropped up on his very first overnight visit. I have seen him throw tantrum after tantrum but nothing quite like his fit last weekend. Our family decided we would head… [more]

What Is the Third Leading Cause of Death for Teenagers?

May 16th, 2008

What is the third leading cause of death for teenagers and young adults those from 15 to 24 years old? If you said suicide then you are correct. What causes teenagers or young adults with an unlimited future ahead of them to choose suicide over life? The number one cause of suicide in the United States is depression. If you suspect your child is suffering from depression, don’t wait. Seek medical help and therapy right away. A federal government survey released on May 13, says that over two million teenagers in the U.S. suffered from a period of serious depression over the past year. Nearly three times as many girls are affected by depression as boys. The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)

Post Adoption Depression

January 17th, 2007

I don’t think enough is said about post adoption depression. I think many pre-adoptive parents think it won’t happen to them. I was one of those who wanted a child so badly that I never considered an adjustment period. I could never imagine myself anything but blissfully happy as a new mom. I dismissed any notion and was not willing to consider it. I think other adoptive parents suffer silently out of shame and fear. I typically will only speak for myself in most situations but today I speak for the new Mom that suffers in silence. After all we have done to adopt this child, all the dossier work, the paper chasing, the medical exams, the home study, all of the waiting… [more]

Post Adoption Depression Revisited: Hot Off The Press

April 25th, 2006

Here is an informative article on Post Adoption Depression, a topic that I posted on several weeks back. That particular post generated a ton of comments, and you know how we bloggers love our comments. I was encouraged to read and participate in the dialogue. This is a serious issue and one that must be brought out into the open. This article really does make me wonder though about the so-called biology of postpartum depression. When I was still single and childfree, I wondered allowed to a friend who was a new mother, whether postpartum depression was simply the realization that being a new parent can be pretty lousy for a pretty long time. That led to a lengthy discussion without any kind… [more]

Post Adoption Depression Syndrome (PADS)

April 17th, 2006

Here is an interesting article on Post Adoption Depression Syndrome. Although it is not a formally recognized disorder, it seems that it is a syndrome that is worth researching and discussing openly and honestly. For years women struggled with postpartum depression in silence and shame. Thankfully, that is changing now due to education and awareness of the problem. It is not unusual to know a woman who admits to having struggled with some level of depression after giving birth to a child. However, I have met many adoptive parents and I don't think I have ever once heard one talk about becoming depressed after adopting a child. A few months ago I wrote about adoption remorse from the perspective of adoptive parents who at… [more]