On B-Days…and A-Days

August 17th, 2009

When you have kids, birthdays are suddenly a big deal. By birthdays, I mean the birthdays of your child(ren), not necessarily your own birthday. My pre-motherhood birthday celebrations usually involved going out with a bunch of my friends and my main squeeze, all dolled up for a night on the town. Once Bear came along and then Beauty, my birthdays became back seat occasions of my own choosing. But my kids’ birthdays are HUGE events in our home and in our family. It’s not to say we spend a fortune or throw amazingly lavish parties, but more so we just really celebrate our children, our family, our life. It’s incredible, and we really try to spend the day focused on the blessings we’ve received in our… [more]

Dear Birth Mom, Your Daughter Is Two Years Old

August 13th, 2008

I am two! Can you believe that it is already that time again? It is time to write our semi-annual Dear Birth Mom letter and update. The months seem to fly by unbelievably fast and it has already been six months since our last update. Our darling daughter has just turned two years old. It seems like just yesterday I was rushing to Texas to meet her for the first time. Now, she is the one rushing, in every direction at once most of the time. She has been transformed from an enchanting little baby to a beautiful little girl in two years. Dear Birth Mom, Now that Amigrace has turned two, it is obvious that she has inherited your tall, lean, and muscular build. At her… [more]

Double Digits!

June 29th, 2008
Categories: Birthdays, Privacy

My oldest turns 10 this week – Double Digits. In anticipation, he's been educating the two youngest on the Intricacies of Being a 'Tween. Every morning you'll find him coming up with new “rules” or facts about what 10-year-olds like or dislike, do or don't do. He started out by telling them he would be spending more time in his room. He said he'd most likely start watching much less of channels like Sprout with them. He explained that he, instead, would be up for more mature fare, such as movies for 'Tweens like Jump In. He told them he might need some time to be alone or just hanging out with older friends. As he tells them these things, they pay rapt attention and hang on every… [more]

Adopted Children, Birthdays, and Bad Behavior

January 21st, 2008
Categories: Birthdays

When I was going through the home study process, my social worker told me to read several books about adoption. One of these books talked about birthdays being a sad time for adopted children. According to the author, for children placed for adoption as a newborn, a child's birthday is also the day that his birthmother "abandoned" him. The author said to keep an eye out for bad behavior around a child's birthday because this could indicate that a child is struggling with adoption issues. The child might not want to celebrate the day that he was taken from his birthfamily.

I did not know whether to believe this or not. Birthdays are generally happy times for kids, especially when they know that they will be… [more]

Adoption Books and Birthday Parties

January 21st, 2008
Categories: Birthdays

My son recently had a birthday. He attends a Montessori school, where birthdays are a really big deal.

Montessori schools have an entire program set up for birthday celebrations. The children sit in a big circle. In the middle of the circle is something to represent the sun. Index cards with the months of the year are placed around the sun. The birthday child holds a globe and circles the sun to represent one year of his life. Meanwhile, the class sings a song about each year. The child stops after each year, and the parent shares stories and pictures of the child from each year of his life.

After this, the teacher reads a book about the birth of a child. The book is age-appropriate… [more]

Birthday Traditions

May 20th, 2007
Categories: Birthdays

cakeToday is a birthday day at our house! What do you do to celebrate birthdays at your house? I’ve found that birthday traditions are an important way of bonding a family together. My adopted children, in particular, seem to respond to our birthday celebrations – once it “happens to them”, it helps to cement their belonging in our family. Traditions bring families together. The funny thing is that it doesn’t even have to be a positive “tradition” to bring families together! Even a neutral thing that happens the same time, every time, would be a tradition – and because members of the family experience it together, it becomes something that cements their relationship to each other, something that… [more]

A Birthday to remember

December 18th, 2006
Categories: Birthdays

Last Friday was my 39th birthday… my first birthday as a Mom. I can’t even begin to tell you how special it was to celebrate with my husband & daughter. You know us Sagittarius gals are sensitive; we get sentimental and weepy over the smallest things. As a former infertile I would dread my birthdays. From the age 29 and on I would say “ well for sure by my next birthday I will certainly be a Mom” anyone who has struggled with their biological clock can relate to the pain & frustration of getting older and feeling as if your time is running out faster than sand in an hourglass. The pain of wondering if it will ever happen. Not seeing… [more]

Birthday Update

November 20th, 2006
Categories: Birthdays

The Birthday Party went off without a hitch. Our friends & Family came to help us make our daughters first birthday home a memorable one. The doll cake was a breeze to make. I loved every minute of planning & throwing her party. I have three nieces, three nephews and two great nieces and I have been to many a birthday party over the years. It was nice to finally be the other end. I’m the Mom now. I was the one passing out the cake & goody bags. The best part of yesterday was seeing My Mom & Livi together. My Mom is a softy…..I see her melt with Liv. She is quiet and sensitive. I have acquired these traits from her… [more]

Party Countdown

November 14th, 2006
Categories: Birthdays

My Baby turns two on Friday. This will be the first birthday we get to celebrate with her.I can’t tell you how excited I am. I may be just a teeny tiny, eensy weensy, little bit living vicariously through her. About 25 people will be coming over to our humble bungalow on Saturday to celebrate. That’s if everyone invited shows up. This party business is work let me tell you. There is cleaning, shopping, baking, list making, goody bag making… Oh My. I have lists upon lists. Even my lists have lists. I have to dig out & clean the punch bowl for the princess punch I will prepare. Each child attending will get a goody bag. I’m going to attempt to make… [more]

Birthday Bash

October 16th, 2006
Categories: Birthdays

birthday I’m in the midst of planning a Birthday Party for my daughter. She will be turning two years old. It’s the first birthday we will be celebrating with her. I went to a Party Store the other day just to browse and goodness gracious I had no idea how extravagant one can get with birthday stuff. There were several themes, gadgets, decorations, coordinating dinnerware and party favors. I see a piñata and think ohhh that would be fun…but she is only two. That seems to be the saving grace. God help me next year. It’s so easy to go overboard. I guess it stems from never having a birthday party as a child. I had my first party when I turned thirty. Birthdays… [more]