A Single Parent Household

April 21st, 2011

love_u_mammaThe other day I wrote a post about single parenthood, a fact of life for many adoptive families.  A lot of people (mostly women, but not all) choose to parent on their own, while others, like mine, become single parent homes after the children arrive.  The other day I mentioned a recent study by the Pew Research Center which indicates that there is a bias when it comes to single parents and that about 2/3 of Americans believe that families headed by single mothers are actually bad for society.  An attitude that definitely  hurts my feelings! I come to this issue from two perspectives: First, I grew up in a single parent household, and now I am experiencing it firsthand as a single… [more]

Re-establishing Daily Routine

January 29th, 2010

518984_a_little_girl_saying_good_night_1The holidays have come and gone. If you're anything like me, I'm still not back to my normal routine. I feel that I'm almost there, but not quite. It's hard to wrap my head around a whole new year, and the fact that my vacation is over. Reality is calling, and I'm trying not to answer. Chances are you and your children may be experiencing the same thing. The holidays were a busy time of year. It was filled with get-togethers, obscenely early shopping trips, delicious sugary treats, and time off of work and school. It was a time of year to be enjoyed and cherished. But once it's over, it's time to get back to your daily routine. While it may be… [more]

Adoptive Parenting and the Stay-at-Home Mom

October 21st, 2009

Adoptive Parenting and the Stay-at-Home MomI am a stay-at-home mom. I briefly mentioned as such in a blog I wrote for "adoptive parenting" earlier today, in fact, and felt compelled to expound a bit on this topic this evening. I say it proudly: I am a stay-at-home mom. I love it. I love it more than I ever thought possible. I love it with a fierce intensity. Yes, I love it. Here's what I don't love, though: the fact that it was seemingly expected. After all, we adopted a baby. I've had this conversation with so, so many of my adoptive mom friends at some point in time--some stay-at-home moms (SAHM), some work-at-home moms (WAHM), and some working moms (outside the home)--and the… [more]

Attachment Disordered Children Will Suck a Stay at Home Parent Dry

July 11th, 2008

Sucking the air outI would like to address a comment made on a blog that I wrote on July 2, 2008 entitled “Place Older Adopted Children With Stay at Home Parent.” In that blog, I stated that older adopted children typically come to their new family with abandonment issues. I realize there are many other issues involved, but I am addressing just abandonment for now. In the summary of the article I stated, “Try to find a way to spend those first few months with your child. Give your child time to feel safe and bond with you. It could potentially save you many problems later.” A reader commented that attachment disordered children will suck a stay at home parent (SAHP) dry emotionally. This is… [more]

Adoptive Parenting: Remaining Successful with an Outside Job

June 2nd, 2007
Categories: Working Moms

momI recently returned to work outside of the home. (Going Back to Work After Adoption) I worked outside the home when I had birth kids. What is different, then, about working outside the home now that I have adopted children? What can I do to make this a successful experience for all of us? 1) Adjust age level expectations for your child. Your child might be chronologically ten, but emotionally 3. Remember to respond to his fears as you reenter the work force as you might if you had a three year old. For instance, your ten year old may need constant daily reassurances of the daily return, including the part about you returning home. He may consciously understand the routine… [more]

Going Back to Work After Adoption

May 29th, 2007
Categories: Working Moms

working momToday, I went back to work. Things are wild on the home front tonight! I honestly had not realized aspects of the impact it would have on some of my kids. Were they not ready for mom to go out to work? Will they ever be ready? How can an adoptive mom know? I’ve worked before, but it has been a couple of years. (Even then, my part-time schedule was so varied and odd that I think some kids weren’t even aware that I had an outside job!) Two years ago, we moved to a new city. My husband returned to school full time at night and was home during the day. I was also home full time. Both of us were… [more]