Re-establishing Daily Routine

January 29th, 2010

518984_a_little_girl_saying_good_night_1The holidays have come and gone. If you're anything like me, I'm still not back to my normal routine. I feel that I'm almost there, but not quite. It's hard to wrap my head around a whole new year, and the fact that my vacation is over. Reality is calling, and I'm trying not to answer. Chances are you and your children may be experiencing the same thing. The holidays were a busy time of year. It was filled with get-togethers, obscenely early shopping trips, delicious sugary treats, and time off of work and school. It was a time of year to be enjoyed and cherished. But once it's over, it's time to get back to your daily routine. While it may be… [more]

Adoptive Parenting and the Stay-at-Home Mom

October 21st, 2009

Adoptive Parenting and the Stay-at-Home MomI am a stay-at-home mom. I briefly mentioned as such in a blog I wrote for "adoptive parenting" earlier today, in fact, and felt compelled to expound a bit on this topic this evening. I say it proudly: I am a stay-at-home mom. I love it. I love it more than I ever thought possible. I love it with a fierce intensity. Yes, I love it. Here's what I don't love, though: the fact that it was seemingly expected. After all, we adopted a baby. I've had this conversation with so, so many of my adoptive mom friends at some point in time--some stay-at-home moms (SAHM), some work-at-home moms (WAHM), and some working moms (outside the home)--and the… [more]

The Early Days: Beautiful but NOT Always Pretty

October 21st, 2009

Family: No Greater LoveWhen Beauty arrived home, we were in the midst of a blustery, snowy Chicago winter. It was freezing outside, but my heart was filled with a warmth beyond words. My daughter, a little girl I loved so strongly before she ever even took her first breath nine months prior, was here, in my arms. Our family of three had transitioned to a beautiful family of four and my heart was positively bursting with love. I've mentioned in past entries that my children are only 10.5 months apart in age; I've also mentioned the issues we dealt with upon Beauty's transitional period of homecoming. This is my entry dedicated to Bear's side of the same story. When I was pregnant, my… [more]

Attachment Disordered Children Will Suck a Stay at Home Parent Dry

July 11th, 2008

Sucking the air outI would like to address a comment made on a blog that I wrote on July 2, 2008 entitled “Place Older Adopted Children With Stay at Home Parent.” In that blog, I stated that older adopted children typically come to their new family with abandonment issues. I realize there are many other issues involved, but I am addressing just abandonment for now. In the summary of the article I stated, “Try to find a way to spend those first few months with your child. Give your child time to feel safe and bond with you. It could potentially save you many problems later.” A reader commented that attachment disordered children will suck a stay at home parent (SAHP) dry emotionally. This is… [more]

Controlled Chaos: Lessons From the Game of Life

April 29th, 2008

As a kid, I loved board games, but never played the very popular Game of Life. Now, as an adult, I still love games, though I play more of them on the computer than anything else. Imagine, then, my joy at finding a “newfangled” version of the game of Life for the computer! But, boy, is it ever fast-paced. With my ADD, there are times in the game where I just get mind-boggled with all the activity going on! At various stages of the game, there are three to four (or more!) people vying for your attention! Interestingly, none of them are capable of doing small routine tasks, yet some have jobs in corporations…just when they get home, they seem to revert to “Mommy’s-at-home-itis!” Thus, it… [more]

The Price of Motherhood

May 4th, 2007
Categories: Stay-at-home Moms

Have you all seen this article? The report by Salary.com basically adds up the hours and various duties of your average stay- at- home mom and tries to match those duties with an average salary. I imagine it was not an easy task coming up with that ball park figure. The job descriptions that Salary.com used to determine a moms salary includes 10 jobs that moms do on an average day: housekeeper, day care center teacher, cook, computer operator, laundry machine operator, janitor, facilities manager, van driver, CEO and psychologist. Think about all we do in your average day, all the hard work that we accomplish 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. The number is $138,095. The article points out… [more]

The Truth

April 27th, 2007
Categories: Stay-at-home Moms

The truth is I feel like a single parent most of the time...I just do. My husband works six days a week 6.30 am-5pm, then he goes bowling on the seventh day for four hours. His time with us as a family is limited. He is working hard provide for our family. When he is plugged in he does a great job. When he is around he is a hands on Dad and tries his very best. He steps in and gives me a break whenever he possibly can. I'm the one who takes Livi to therapy, to medical appointments,and to school. I’m the one to make sure she gets her sensory needs met. I’m also the lucky recipient of any outbursts and have… [more]

Top Three Tips for Stay at home Moms

March 12th, 2007
Categories: Stay-at-home Moms

Transitioning from working to staying at home was a big adjustment for me. I assumed it would be an easy transition for me since it’s been a dream and goal of mine to be a stay at home Mom for the longest time. Not so, I really had a difficult time with it. I missed working at first. I missed the interaction with other adults, I missed being in charge, I missed earning my own money, and I missed getting praise for a job well done. It’s almost as if you have to reinvent yourself. So much of my identity was wrapped up in my career. Nothing could prepare me for how hard and draining this new job of being a sahm… [more]

Who’s the Boss?

November 22nd, 2006
Categories: Stay-at-home Moms

I’m a stay at home Mom. My husband works very hard six days a week so that I can stay home. I’m the one that meets most of our daughters needs. Who am I kidding, I meet all of her needs.Besides my work out nights I’m the one the feeds her, dresses her, bathes her, plays with her, and reads to her. You get the idea. I’m her main caregiver. Recently on a family outing my husband became angry as I was being bossy and not letting him be a parent. He was right. His concerns are valid and he had every right to be upset. I have a very hard time switching gears and giving up control. I have a hard time… [more]

How to spot a Toddler Mom

October 3rd, 2006
Categories: Stay-at-home Moms

I’m not one of those Women who manages to have both herself and her child looking put together. My daughter is always clean and dressed very cute. Im another story all together.Since becoming a Mom I have let myself go- big time. I’m hoping that this will improve once my girl becomes more self-sufficient. Please tell me that it will improve. Now I’m sporting the whole toddler Mom look… I’m sure its coming in style again soon. Here is my Top Ten ways to spot a Toddler Mom. I have seen a few Mom’s that seem to be able to look fashionable, I’m almost certain that they have hired help so they don’t count. I’m hoping to change things starting with my hair… [more]