Insurance Woes

March 17th, 2014

money signInsurance has been a pain for a lot of people this year. The new healthcare regulations have affected a lot of people, including my family. I am not going to get into Obama Care, but I do want to share a glimpse of what we have been dealing with for the past year and a half. When we adopted our son five years ago we had a different insurance company than we do now. My husband was with the same company though. During that time our adoption agency had advised us that most likely the insurance with not cover our son until finalization day. With most insurance companies though, they will back track the claims and pay for any remaining balance… [more]


August 16th, 2013

21 - Blog Post 221 will always be a special number for me. 21 was when I felt as though I had become fully grown. I felt liberated and free and ready to show the world how mature I was.  But 21 has now taken on a new meaning for me because I adopted a sweet wonderful little girl on the 21st and my world has changed. I went from wife, business owner, and now I get to add Mom. On the 21st day of September my daughter was placed in my home after we visited each other for two months. I remember it like it was yesterday how her face lit up when she put all her things in her room. We put on some music and organized… [more]

Handling Those Fears About Your Adopted Child

October 19th, 2012

Adoption vs. Pregnancy: Two Ways to Build Your FamilyWhen an adopted child first comes into your home, the joy and excitement the little one brings is magical. There is nothing like that euphoria. You fall in love. However, when the child's health or behavioral challenges surface, an adoptive parent's imagination can easily drum up dark fears.   While a birth parent worries about the child's issues, as an adoptive parent, you may also worry about the issue plus the unknown or known history of the adoptee's background. You may even hear the haunting voice from a family or friend who was against your adoption, "Why adopt?  You don't know what that child has in her background." This is when you must stay strong. Separate the facts from fiction.  Your… [more]

Happy Father’s Day!

June 19th, 2011

645389_father_and_sonIt's Father's Day and across the country dads are opening up presents: ties, barbecue tools, car gadgets, the latest technological mechanism guaranteed to make their life easier.  Or perhaps they are going to spend the day on the golf course--after breakfast in bed, no doubt!  Whatever it is, I hope all dads get to celebrate. I've made this observation before, but it seems that the adoption literature is full of stories written by adoptive mothers.  We hear their voices and know their perspective.  No doubt it has to do with the fact that when it comes to adoption, often it is the woman who is the driving force. But what of adoptive fathers?  Who are these men who willingly go along with their wives… [more]

Home Study Foresight

March 10th, 2010
Categories: Adoption Process

Home Study ForesightA little foresight can save you a lot of money sometimes. I think that concept is pretty true for most things, actually. In many ways, I feel I subscribe to this belief. I scour ads to compare big ticket items (as long as they're on sale, that is); I try to think of realistic value for every dollar spent. In adoption, I don't believe in the exact same principles. Sure, we compared agencies, but I didn't let the bottom dollar amount dictate our decision. Adoption can be, at times, quite costly. We wound up making a mistake in the process of adopting our third child that I'd like to share in hope that it will prevent others from doing the… [more]

Broadening Horizons

March 1st, 2010

Broadening HorizonsBella is my only first-hand experience with open adoption, and I'd like to share some of my thoughts on my experiences thus far. When we agreed to enter an open adoption, the decision wasn't a difficult one in the least; however, we were venturing out to uncharted territory for our family.  I remain in very loose contact with Bear's birth father, and we have absolutely no contact with either of Beauty's birth parents in Guatemala. So what did I (do I, really) know about open adoption? In a few words? Not much. Sure, I know all I've read, all the accounts I've followed so closely throughout the years through blogs, books, and so on. I consider myself reasonably educated in the area… [more]

Kids’ Adoption Questions

February 23rd, 2010

Adoption Questions (Kids)"Why do we have to see a judge?" Bear asked for quite possibly the hundredth time. "A judge is someone who helps complete adoptions," my husband offered. "Oh," said Bear, clearly unimpressed. "But we get to go out to dinner after that, right?" Hey, you have to have priorities, no? While I think both of my 'older' children have a good grasp on and understanding of adoption, there are definitely details and components they just don't 'get'. They understand that a social worker helps get your family ready for a new baby; they understand that birth moms are a part of our family, too. They understand that adoption is a something that we celebrate in our family. They comprehend "a-days" and how they differ… [more]

It’s a GIRL!

February 16th, 2010

Sweet Baby Bella - February 2010I am slightly sleep deprived. Wait, let me back up. I have a new baby--a beautiful little girl--and I'm slightly sleep deprived. Sometimes life takes some unexpected turns. And sometimes the outcome of said unexpected turns is amazingly beautiful. As some of the more regular readers might recall, we were in the process of adopting from Ethiopia. Long story short, before we even started on compiling our dossier, we had a change of heart and decided to pursue an adoption through the foster care system. In the middle of December, we met with our new social worker (did I mention we needed a completely new home study even though we just had a favorable one approved in July? More on… [more]

Adoptive Parenting: Two Beautiful Years

December 13th, 2009

Adoptive Parenting - 2 Year Anniversary"Adoption" means many things to many people. Two years ago today, I couldn't imagine how my world would change, how the power of one word could and would transform everything. Tomorrow isn't Beauty's birthday; it's not her "A-Day" in either Guatemala or the U.S. But it is one of the most special days of the year for me. Tomorrow marks the second anniversary of the day I met my daughter for the first time. I just finished baking her homecoming anniversary cake. It's pink, since that's her favorite color, with chocolate frosting and tons of sprinkles (she's a girl who loves her sprinkles, let me tell you). And I'm blissfully happy. I've been flipping through photo albums--all the… [more]

On B-Days…and A-Days

August 17th, 2009

When you have kids, birthdays are suddenly a big deal. By birthdays, I mean the birthdays of your child(ren), not necessarily your own birthday. My pre-motherhood birthday celebrations usually involved going out with a bunch of my friends and my main squeeze, all dolled up for a night on the town. Once Bear came along and then Beauty, my birthdays became back seat occasions of my own choosing. But my kids’ birthdays are HUGE events in our home and in our family. It’s not to say we spend a fortune or throw amazingly lavish parties, but more so we just really celebrate our children, our family, our life. It’s incredible, and we really try to spend the day focused on the blessings we’ve received in our… [more]