Here is an interesting article on Post Adoption Depression Syndrome. Although it is not a formally recognized disorder, it seems that it is a syndrome that is worth researching and discussing openly and honestly.

For years women struggled with postpartum depression in silence and shame. Thankfully, that is changing now due to education and awareness of the problem. It is not unusual to know a woman who admits to having struggled with some level of depression after giving birth to a child. However, I have met many adoptive parents... more

Well, I decided not to let this theme drag on and on. Besides, I hope to be here blogging for quite some time to come and so I imagine some topics will resurface again and again. Even one as tough as this one has been.

In my last post, I left off raising the question as to whether my adoption remorse episode made me doubt whether to follow through with the finalization of the adoption. It did not. Although I knew that if I really wanted to, I could pick up a phone and call the social worker and tell her "this is just not working out." What I found out was that I really didn't want to do that. No way.

In a strange twist, I had the opportunity to experience what some parents... more

Okay. Where was I? Oh here: "However...I think that there is something qualitatively different about parenting remorse when you have become a parent through adoption as opposed through (sic) giving birth to your child....I know. Because,I, have been there.

Parenting remorse. Let's talk about that one first. The thing that kills me about parent remorse is that it can be triggered by the most mundane incident. That makes it even harder to comprehend. I wrote about an incident in a book I recently published where my son was relentlessly asking me for some mini-chocolate chip cookies.

No matter what I did I could not stop him from askng me for the damn cookies. I don't... more

I have been trying to figure out how to write this post. I find it "vedee ingtervesting" that I have started and stopped several times in the past couple of days. Usually when I sit down to post, my thoughts just flow. I am a motor mouth and when it comes to posting, my fingers are just an extension of my loose lips. In speaking and in writing, sometimes that is a good thing. Sometimes not. But it is who I am, who I have always been, and it is not likely to change.

You can see why I am totally shocked to find that when I decided to post on the topic of adoption remorse, all of a sudden I'm struggling with writer's block? What's up with that? So, I'm going to break this down into its... more