I try not to operate from a position of fear in anything I do in life. When I am hesitant, or uncertain, or just plain old scared about something, I am usually capable of mustering up the courage, or the fortitude, or the wisdom to tackle the perceived problem head on and succeed, triumph even. But, I have one fear involving my children, my adopted children in particular that still plagues me and that I don't think will resolve until they are adults.

I worry, I fear, that my children may not be having the wonderful childhood experience that I think they are... more

Frequently asked questions week

So who has the fertility problem you or your husband? This unfortunately is the question some ask instead of why did you adopt? Many people assume that the childless couples who adopt are doing so because they are physically unable to have children. This is not always the case. Some people just feel called to adopt and choose not to give birth to a child for whatever reason. Adoption has always been in my heart. I can’t remember when I first learned about adoption. But it was always something... more

I guess its complain about my Husband week as seen in this post.My husband & I often disagree on what type of expectations we should have of our toddler. I tend to be on the more strict side while he tends to have a “ kids will be kids” attitude. While I agree that we should not expect behaviors of her that are beyond her comprehension or abilities. I don’t see anything wrong with having certain expectations because how else will she learn right from... more

You know sometimes this Parenting business is hard work…well not just sometimes but all the time. When you add the attachment parenting to the mix it can get really hard. That leaves one worn out Mama. Holding time can be emotionally and physically draining. My husband respects my wishes about holding time but wants no part of it. He can see the payoff but does not really like it or agree with it. I have asked him to read up on it and encouraged him to express his concerns and do his research for and against it.After all we are a team and if he could bring a good... more

I’m feeling blah this week. It’s getting cold here in Ohio. I have this constant sinus head cold stuff, and I have major cabin fever. My husband called me late this morning from work; he was leaving a message on the machine as I picked up the phone. I had just put Livi down for her morning nap. What’s up I questioned? He said he was just calling to see how I was. I’m fine…. Why? There was some worry in his voice. He said, “ Well I noticed you have not blogged yet today and I was wondering if everything was ok?”.

I explained that I... more

We have not had a date night since coming home from Russia with our daughter. We have been home since March 30th. My problem is that I am not ready to leave my daughter with anyone. The only time I left her was when John was in the ICU and they would not allow me to bring her to visit. She was not as strongly attached to me then, we had not even been home for 3 weeks before John got sick. I did not want to leave her then either but I needed to see how my husband was doing and talk to the Physician.I did not have much of a choice.

My sister... more

I read an amazing article on Envy in the “ Yoga Journal”. It really made me think about those people in my life that I have been envious of, how I dealt with those feelings and how I acted towards those people. I can recall the green-eyed monster showing up the most during our infertility battles when it seemed that everyone was getting pregnant- three important people in my life were all pregnant.

I was so jealous I could not stand myself. I did not always handle it well. I avoided... more

My baby is no longer a baby. I guess I never actually had a baby-baby as she joined our family at the age of 16 months. She is officially a toddler and all that comes with the toddler title. She is fiercely independent; explores her environment fearlessly, and does not know the meaning of the word “ No”.

Toddler hood is all about leaving the safety of Mom’s arms and testing limits. We both missed out on that total dependence on Mom infant stage, so we had to recreate and regress for her sake and mine. Any baby like tendencies she does... more

What if all of the parents that ever parented an adopted child actually united in honor of the adopted child's first parents? What if we all united in honor of one another? Gasp! What a concept. How remarkable would that be?

It is powerful when a group presumed to have more power than another group acts, works, speaks, struggles in unison with the less powerful group. There is something that makes you take notice when groups with seemingly disparate interests band together in the name of a just and worthy cause. That has been the case in political, economic, religious,... more

Here is an informative article on Post Adoption Depression, a topic that I posted on several weeks back. That particular post generated a ton of comments, and you know how we bloggers love our comments. I was encouraged to read and participate in the dialogue. This is a serious issue and one that must be brought out into the open.

This article really does... more