As promised, from "Khalil Gibran: The Prophet."

"Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.... more

One of my readers (possibly my only reader so far!), Bill, left a brief but insightful comment on my very first post: "Welcome!" If you read my Bio you will see that I have a bias towards supporting parents in using their own judgment in how to raise their children. But, Bill pointed out that while he feels comfortable in doing this, there are some parents who don't feel like they can trust their own instincts. I know he is absolutely correct about this. I have started calling it "Doctor Knows Best" syndrome. I am both fascinated and dismayed by this phenomenon. So much so that I was inspired to write and self-publish a short inspirational anti-expert book entitled "Put It On Your Therapy... more

Writing here on the topic of adoptive parenting is an incredibly exciting opportunity! My goal is to offer adoptive parents as much information on parenting as I possibly can. I want this site to be your main parenting resource. I want it to be highly interactive. This site belongs to YOU!

Let me start out by being quite frank about my personal philosophy on parenting in general, not just adoptive parenting. I believe very strongly that each and every parent is the expert on their own child. It doesn't matter if you gave birth to your child or if your child was adopted. It doesn't matter if your baby just came home from the hospital, or just joined your family by traveling from another... more