Sucking the air outI would like to address a comment made on a blog that I wrote on July 2, 2008 entitled “Place Older Adopted Children With Stay at Home Parent.” In that blog, I stated that older adopted children typically come to their new family with abandonment issues. I realize there are many other issues involved, but I am addressing just abandonment for now. In the summary of the article I stated, “Try to find a way to spend those first... more

I recently returned to work outside of the home. (Going Back to Work After Adoption)

I worked outside the home when I had birth kids. What is different, then, about working outside the home now that I have adopted children?

What can I do to make this a successful experience for all of us?

1) Adjust age level expectations for your child. Your child might be chronologically ten, but emotionally 3. Remember to respond to... more

Today, I went back to work. Things are wild on the home front tonight! I honestly had not realized aspects of the impact it would have on some of my kids.

Were they not ready for mom to go out to work? Will they ever be ready? How can an adoptive mom know?

I’ve worked before, but it has been a couple of years. (Even then, my part-time schedule was so varied and odd that I think some kids weren’t even aware that I had an outside job!)

Two years ago, we moved to a new city. My husband returned to school... more